Let's TALK about Barbados > God In Barbados: Is The Gospel More Dominant or Yet To be Spread From Coast To Coast?
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March 15, 2008 |
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Here is an article from Nation News online.
I hope, this is a sign that everywhere even in the beautiful Island of Barbados needs good churches, and preachers who are not blasphemers of God's name.
I hope you would approach this story with a receptive mind.
God is a Holy God, he created the institution of marriage. And tells us we are not to put away our wives and husbands. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
I think you get the picture.
Published on: 3/15/08.
as told to SANKA PRICE
THE CHURCH, OR RATHER, a preacher, has messed up my whole life.
I always thought the church was supposed to help married couples, but in my case, by going that way to resolve problems in my four-year marriage, it broke up my relationship. That experience showed me why one should always put one's faith in God and not in man, especially one who wants your woman.
As we had lived together prior to marriage, my wife and I understood each other's needs, so after the wedding she continued to study part time and work, while I continued to be self-employed. When she complained that studying was getting too hard, I used to tell her to be strong and not to leave out her education.
She told me she wanted us to go to church together and we were trying to decide on which church. She heard about a certain preacher, and having heard him on the radio at some point, she started going to his church. She then urged me to go with her.
I was not comfortable with the setting at this urban church, but my wife was. After three weeks I realised she was behaving differently. After a few weeks she was not paying attention to me and then told me that God said she should not have sex with me anymore. I asked her how she could arrive at that all of a sudden, and she said she had things on her mind and needed to go to counselling.
I told her we should go to such sessions together, but she disagreed, saying it was her problem.
It turned out that my wife was going to the preacher's house for the counselling and when I asked why there and not at the church, she ignored me and went ahead on her own.
Counselling session
Eventually we had a counselling session with this preacher at a St Michael beach. He asked what was the problem with our marriage and I told him nothing as far as I knew. The truth is, my wife and I had four serious arguments in our four years together, and I have always been honest with her.
He asked if I beat her, cheat on her, and other negative questions. My wife, to my astonishment, said she was breaking down inside and the love she had for me was slipping away. Worst still, she said she felt as if she was fooling herself and wanted a divorce. She added that nothing I said or did would cause her to change her mind because God told her not to be with me anymore.
Her words cut me to the core; I could not believe what I was hearing. I couldn't help but wonder what sin I had committed to deserve this treatment.
Anyway, I gave her some space as I was determined not to do anything to upset her, because I wanted her in my life. Then one night when she had finished her youth group session she called me and said she wanted the house key. I told her I was finished work and was only waiting for her call to come and take her home. But the preacher brought her for the key.
Then there was another time when she told me she had to work overtime, but when I went to collect after 7 p.m., her boss said she had left since 4 p.m. When I got home the landlord told me she had come and asked for the key and she packed all of her things.
I later found out she was at her mother's house, but when I called she would not answer the phone. This was in mid-December. Up until Christmas Day I still had not heard her and it had me very upset. I was building up courage to deal with the situation because I had done her nothing wrong and still she left.
On Old Year's Day she sent me a text telling me "God Loves You". I sent one back telling her I hope she had found what she was looking for.
By January I got some help from a counsellor to help me to cope with the separation and the impact it was having on my life, so I asked him if preachers encouraged the break-up of marriages. He told me no – their job is to save them.
Still surviving
When I called her later in the month, she had quit her job and stopped studying. She told me she was still surviving and all her bills were getting paid. She had obviously found a way out of our marriage.
As a then 20-year-old, I could still not understand what went wrong because we were managing life.
She suggested to me that I should go to court with her and say that we had never had sex and get the magistrate to annul the marriage.
I asked her what kind of Christian she was and told her I would not lie and most of all not in a court.
I later heard about this pastor who was getting married to a young girl. When I got the description I put two and two together, and realised why she was so anxious for a divorce.
Even her mother said she was behaving strange as though the preacher had a hold on her.
Her mother got the two of us together and I told her she was being brainwashed because since going to this church everything in our marriage was wrong.
She got vex, said she didn't appreciate me calling her brainwashed, and that she would never get back with me. The preacher called me, blocking his number and told me if I wanted a fight, his lawyers were ready. It was after this that she admitted she was living at his house.
He then sent me a text calling me a fool and said I didn't know who I was messing with. I sent him one back and told him he was the fool because his number showed up with the text.
My wife, who had turned to her preacher for the Word, called me again and said she would get her divorce with or without me, because she was not waiting two-and-a-half years.
I am awaiting to see how she gets it without my cooperation.
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I hope the Barbadian and foreigners pray for our young brother as he face this challenging situation.
Linda, I hope by sharing this article is not
going against your post policy.
Love and Tranquility always!
Ciao.
I hope, this is a sign that everywhere even in the beautiful Island of Barbados needs good churches, and preachers who are not blasphemers of God's name.
I hope you would approach this story with a receptive mind.
God is a Holy God, he created the institution of marriage. And tells us we are not to put away our wives and husbands. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
I think you get the picture.
Published on: 3/15/08.
as told to SANKA PRICE
THE CHURCH, OR RATHER, a preacher, has messed up my whole life.
I always thought the church was supposed to help married couples, but in my case, by going that way to resolve problems in my four-year marriage, it broke up my relationship. That experience showed me why one should always put one's faith in God and not in man, especially one who wants your woman.
As we had lived together prior to marriage, my wife and I understood each other's needs, so after the wedding she continued to study part time and work, while I continued to be self-employed. When she complained that studying was getting too hard, I used to tell her to be strong and not to leave out her education.
She told me she wanted us to go to church together and we were trying to decide on which church. She heard about a certain preacher, and having heard him on the radio at some point, she started going to his church. She then urged me to go with her.
I was not comfortable with the setting at this urban church, but my wife was. After three weeks I realised she was behaving differently. After a few weeks she was not paying attention to me and then told me that God said she should not have sex with me anymore. I asked her how she could arrive at that all of a sudden, and she said she had things on her mind and needed to go to counselling.
I told her we should go to such sessions together, but she disagreed, saying it was her problem.
It turned out that my wife was going to the preacher's house for the counselling and when I asked why there and not at the church, she ignored me and went ahead on her own.
Counselling session
Eventually we had a counselling session with this preacher at a St Michael beach. He asked what was the problem with our marriage and I told him nothing as far as I knew. The truth is, my wife and I had four serious arguments in our four years together, and I have always been honest with her.
He asked if I beat her, cheat on her, and other negative questions. My wife, to my astonishment, said she was breaking down inside and the love she had for me was slipping away. Worst still, she said she felt as if she was fooling herself and wanted a divorce. She added that nothing I said or did would cause her to change her mind because God told her not to be with me anymore.
Her words cut me to the core; I could not believe what I was hearing. I couldn't help but wonder what sin I had committed to deserve this treatment.
Anyway, I gave her some space as I was determined not to do anything to upset her, because I wanted her in my life. Then one night when she had finished her youth group session she called me and said she wanted the house key. I told her I was finished work and was only waiting for her call to come and take her home. But the preacher brought her for the key.
Then there was another time when she told me she had to work overtime, but when I went to collect after 7 p.m., her boss said she had left since 4 p.m. When I got home the landlord told me she had come and asked for the key and she packed all of her things.
I later found out she was at her mother's house, but when I called she would not answer the phone. This was in mid-December. Up until Christmas Day I still had not heard her and it had me very upset. I was building up courage to deal with the situation because I had done her nothing wrong and still she left.
On Old Year's Day she sent me a text telling me "God Loves You". I sent one back telling her I hope she had found what she was looking for.
By January I got some help from a counsellor to help me to cope with the separation and the impact it was having on my life, so I asked him if preachers encouraged the break-up of marriages. He told me no – their job is to save them.
Still surviving
When I called her later in the month, she had quit her job and stopped studying. She told me she was still surviving and all her bills were getting paid. She had obviously found a way out of our marriage.
As a then 20-year-old, I could still not understand what went wrong because we were managing life.
She suggested to me that I should go to court with her and say that we had never had sex and get the magistrate to annul the marriage.
I asked her what kind of Christian she was and told her I would not lie and most of all not in a court.
I later heard about this pastor who was getting married to a young girl. When I got the description I put two and two together, and realised why she was so anxious for a divorce.
Even her mother said she was behaving strange as though the preacher had a hold on her.
Her mother got the two of us together and I told her she was being brainwashed because since going to this church everything in our marriage was wrong.
She got vex, said she didn't appreciate me calling her brainwashed, and that she would never get back with me. The preacher called me, blocking his number and told me if I wanted a fight, his lawyers were ready. It was after this that she admitted she was living at his house.
He then sent me a text calling me a fool and said I didn't know who I was messing with. I sent him one back and told him he was the fool because his number showed up with the text.
My wife, who had turned to her preacher for the Word, called me again and said she would get her divorce with or without me, because she was not waiting two-and-a-half years.
I am awaiting to see how she gets it without my cooperation.
(*^*^*)
I hope the Barbadian and foreigners pray for our young brother as he face this challenging situation.
Linda, I hope by sharing this article is not
going against your post policy.
Love and Tranquility always!
Ciao.
March 16, 2008 |
CCM
CCM
Do we need to send more church planters, missionaries, and evanglist to Barbados?
I am curious to know how many Barbadians, tourist (who tour the beautiful island), and mere investors, know whence cometh thee? And Whence shall we return?
I have not met any professing Bible believing Barbadians as yet. It would be wonderful if a few come on board and post a few insights of the need and or spread of the gospel in Barbados.
Are there churches on every coastal vicinities, such as blocks, town(s), and villages?
ALL are more than WELCOME to give their views on this topic irrespective of what you are, or where you are from.
Psalm 23:1-6 and John 3:16
Transition:
These popcorns are yummy (excuse me). Which popcorns? You are porbably asking. The ones that I am eating. Don't worry it will all be finish by the time you post your views (smiles).
Love and Tranquilty always!
Ciao!